Looking to move in with your partner? Wondering if it’s the right step to take?
Then it’s important to consider all of the compromises you may have to make. Even though some of these may seem minor and insignificant to some, for others certain aspects of living together (e.g. sharing finances and perhaps giving up some control over them) can be a daunting prospect.
Below, we take a look at 3 of the possible compromises you and your partner may need to make – all in the name of harmonious living:
1. Personality
When you go on dates, stay over at each other’s houses and even go on holiday together, you get along swimmingly. But when you live together 24/7, you may start to notice certain habits that irritate the hell out of you.
Whether you’re a clean freak that can’t abide clothes being strewn all over the floor or you prefer to watch the soaps rather than documentaries, these are all scenarios you may face and have to deal with.
Over time, you’ll learn when to make a comment and when to let things slide.
2. Finances
A huge part of living together is sharing finances to cover bills, pay for your rent/mortgage and for the general cost of living. You may have had full control over this and want to retain that (which your partner may be happy about) but it’s important to be clear from the offset who’s responsible for what.
Getting a joint bank account often makes it easier for you both to keep tabs on money while feeling united in your efforts. But if that’s a step too far, clarify who’s going to pay what bills and who’s going to be responsible for what – otherwise, you may start to find there are niggles over someone paying too much/not enough.
3. Boundaries
When you live with someone, you’ve got to have boundaries and respect each other’s – even if they’re not the same. For example, if you or your partner has never lived with someone before, they may need some ‘me time’ every now and again, just while they adjust to these new living arrangements. If you want leaving alone while you’re in the bath – tell your partner, and if they want time out to watch the footie with their friends, give them that time.
Ultimately, it’s always a good idea to have a chat about what you’re both expecting from this living together situation before you dive right in and do it. That way, you can set boundaries and expectations so there aren’t arguments over certain things further down the line. Be honest and listen to each other.
